Looking Towards 2013

My goal for 2012 was to find balance. It’s really hard to sum up in just a few sentences whether or not I think I achieved that. I spent a lot of time and energy this year of finding a new job and that was definitely not a balanced experience. It made me realize though that it’s okay to have a down year. Time goes by so fast; sometimes it’s hard to measure in days and weeks, months even. Life takes time and it can get in the way of your goals. If anything, that was a huge lesson for me this year, one that I will carry forward into 2013.

Despite the tough stuff, there were also some amazing times in 2012. Some highlights include: finally getting a new job, traveling a bunch, really enjoying the summer, visiting my sister and nephews in Richmond, turning 30 and completing my 30 Before 30 Project, John turning 30 (in Vegas, no less), our cross country road trip, reading The Happiness Project and being able to apply it to everyday life, meeting Joy The Baker, rekindling my love of being crafty by taking a whole bunch of classes at Gather Here, and producing some real quality recipes and photographs here on Domestocrat.


As I look forward to 2013 I wanted to pick another theme and stick with it all year. So, my theme for 2013 is to Take Care Of Me. I’m a giver, a side-stepper, a work horse, a second guesser, a procrastinator, a peacemaker. All of these traits prevent me from putting myself first, for better or worse. Putting everything else first has become my excuse and it’s created an overpromised illusion of what I’m capable of. Taking care of me isn’t selfish. It’s the furthest thing from it. If I’m garbage, exhausted, or moody, everyone else suffers not just me. I can use one year, this year, to take care of me. This means a whole bunch of things that I haven’t quite fleshed out yet but broadly Taking Care Of Me means holistic health for the year (physically, mentally, financially, etc) and I’m really looking forward to it.

Some really specific things I’m looking forward to in 2013 are: our California to Oregon road trip in May, my sister-in-law’s wedding in August, my family reunion in August, and living debt free (which includes getting rid of my car in March!).

Onward, and Happy New Year!

Author: Domestocrat

I'm a lady who enjoys photography, football, cooking, long drives with the windows down, This American Life, kettlecorn, hot yoga, pop punk, my nephews, my cat Reggie, and my home: Boston.

9 thoughts

  1. I love your idea of focusing on you. And you are right, if you are not taking care of yourself then people around you are not receiving the best you. I learned this when being a caregiver to my grandparents. I am giving some thought to 2013. I try not to make resolutions, like you, I try to take lessons learned and put them to use. 2012 did teach me that laughter is the best medicine, I have the test results to prove it. I also learned I love wine and cheese and will never give it up despite the latest study that says I should. The next study will just say it is fine anyways. I also learned that people I am related to define “family” and what that entails differently. I am still not sure what to do with that. But as with everything in life, we learn the lessons when we need to not when we want to. Wishing you a very healthy and happy 2013.

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