On Marriage: Now What?

I know I still owe you all a blog about our wedding. I am getting to it, I swear! I just want it to be something I put a lot of thought into. It’ll happen soon!

But, now that we’re married, the honeymoon is over, and we’re back to the real world, it feels strange to have nothing on the horizon. I keep thinking now what? What’s next for us? What do the coming days, weeks, years, eternity hold for us? It’s not like me to just sit around without a project or big goal. So reality is feeling a bit weird and foreign to me at the moment.

I know that the world has a lot of assumptions about what married couples should do. Most of which I’m totally guilty of assuming of other people too. But why does there have to be this pressure to quickly move on to The Next Big Thing? I’m exhausted. I don’t want to do anything or plan anything or think about anything. I want to enjoy my new husband and the summer and keep it simple right now.

Did I mention that when I logged into TheKnot.com after the wedding that it auto-forwarded me to TheNest.com? That was kind of freaky. So apparently I should buy a house next. Also, today at my annual check up, my primary care doctor told me all the things I need to do to prepare to get pregnant. So maybe I should have a baby next? Truthfully, I am so far from being ready for either of those things I worry that I won’t ever be ready.

For now though, I am going to do things at my own pace. Planning a wedding taught me a lot about having thick skin and sticking to your guns even when everyone else thinks you’re nuts. So take a good long look world but there’s nothing exciting happening over here (unless you think making your own ice cream, hanging out with your cat, eating BBQ, and frequenting your local open/farmers market is exciting, in which case keep reading please!).

Author: Domestocrat

I'm a lady who enjoys photography, football, cooking, long drives with the windows down, This American Life, kettlecorn, hot yoga, pop punk, my nephews, my cat Reggie, and my home: Boston.

9 thoughts

  1. I understand – you’ve been “go-go-go” until the big day and then off to the honeymoon! Just enjoy your downtime – what to do next will come soon enough…

  2. I do remember how weird it was to come back after the honeymoon and not have any more planning to do! And despite the fact that hubby and I were already living together and owned a house, there is still a difference in mindset after being married. It feels like instead of saying “oh someday” for various plans, now we’re together for life and we can set timelines and goals and merge finances and all that. Congratulations! Enjoy this next phase of your life!

  3. Kim, so funny about being auto-forwarded to TheNest.com. Shortly after our wedding i started getting baby-related things in the mail – ads, magazines, coupons! I definitely think TheKnot.com shared my info with TheBump.com!

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