Marry A Good Man + Team Work = A Happy Bride

People keep asking me how wedding planning is going, how I’m managing the stress, if I need help. I’ve been responding with the same thing every time: “I wouldn’t know, John’s done everything.” We joke that he’s a groomzilla, that the vendors won’t even know who the bride is, that I won’t have to lift a finger, I’ll just show up on the day. Truth is, I’m just marrying the best man in the world.
He keeps saying he’s doing all the heavy lifting because he doesn’t want me to get stressed and isn’t bothered by making phone calls and being a hard ass to the vendors. I know that’s true but I also know it’s because he’s sensitive, wants me to put all of my energies into the wedding things I really care about (the photography, crafty things/decorations, invitations, honeymoon), and because he really does want to be involved in every single element of the planning. I’ve always thought it was silly that most guys don’t care and leave it all up to the bride. Aren’t you getting married too, dude?
That’s another reason I know I’m marrying a good man. He knows what he wants and will do whatever to get it. He wants a beautiful wedding day just as much as I do. And I care that he cares about that. I wouldn’t want to do this alone. I don’t want to be a bridal island.
I don’t need to go into why I love A Practical Wedding (again) but I will go in to how much I love their blogs on DIY and, better yet DIT, weddings. DIT (Do-It-Together) has been John’s and my wedding planning philosophy even before I had heard the term DIT. Even when he decides on the entire catering order or I hand stamp all the escort cards or he picks out the wedding cake or I design our Save The Dates in Photoshop, I still feel like we’re a team. And that’s really the most important part.
“Everyday we wake up
We choose love, we choose light, and we try
Love can free us from all excess, from our deepest debts
Cause when our hearts are full we need much less.”
— The Submarines – You, Me, & The Bourgeoisie

Author: Domestocrat

I'm a lady who enjoys photography, football, cooking, long drives with the windows down, This American Life, kettlecorn, hot yoga, pop punk, my nephews, my cat Reggie, and my home: Boston.

7 thoughts

  1. Yep. And that’s how it should be. I contrast your experience with those of some of my more…how would you say…high-maintenance brides (and their mothers, to be honest). Honestly, they are *inventing* stuff to stress out about, now. It’s like they’re so caught up in details that they forget that this is the day that you commit to the person you love for life, and isn’t THAT what’s special about it?

    Keep on keeping on, Kim and John. You both rock.

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